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When you feel like the dumbest person in the room...
It’s good not to know it all
Hey there —
Imagine you’re at a dinner party, sitting at a table full of Ph.D.s. Suddenly, the conversation veers toward stock options, quantum physics, and neurogenesis. Is your gut reaction to:
Mentally check out before excusing yourself and fleeing the scene. 🏃
Stay put and conversate as if you have a clue about what’s going on. 🫠
It’s human nature to gravitate toward similar-minded people. And if we’re in a room full of “smarter” people who are experts in complicated topics — the pros to our amateur — we can get pretty uncomfortable, pretty fast.

Yet, that cringe feeling of “I’m the dumbest person here” is actually a good sign.
While it’s comforting to be the brainiest in a crowd, it can overindulge your ego. You might be tempted to believe you’re superior to others — because hey, you have nothing left to learn, right?
But to grow, you have to get comfortable not knowing it all. It doesn’t mean you’re “dumb” — it’s a sign you’re in the fortunate position of being able to learn from others and expand your worldview.
Michael Dell, the founder of Dell Technologies, even credits his success to the relationships that stem from this practice:
“Try never to be the smartest person in the room. And if you are, I suggest you invite smarter people…or find a different room. [...] my own growth as a leader has shown me again and again that the most rewarding experiences come from my relationships.”
Here are a few tips for your next awesome (but awkward) growth opportunity:
🧠 Reframe your thoughts from “I have nothing to contribute” to “I have everything to gain.”
👂Use it as a chance to practice your active listening skills. Instead of scrambling to come up with something smart to say, tune in to the conversation.
❓Ask thoughtful questions. Statements aren’t the only way to add value to a convo!
It can be uncomfortable to be in a place where you might feel inadequate or clueless. But learning from others creates the opportunity to gain new perspectives, connections, and knowledge. And this newfound information might just open up your world (in the best way possible). 🌍


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Written by Alice Lemée
Edited by Matt D'Avella & Kerstin Sheppard